Why do men walk away from God?

Dec 16, 2021

Updated: 2 days ago

There are countless reasons why people choose to walk away from God, and often they have a justification for doing so. Some common reasons include:

a. Believing that God doesn’t care about their needs.

b. Struggling with the fact that God allows bad things to happen.

c. Choosing to cling to sinful desires while finding ways to justify them.

But let me ask you this: If God sent His ONLY begotten Son, Jesus Christ, to suffer and die a gruesome death on the cross for our sins (John 3:16)—just so we could be redeemed as His children and inherit the blessings of Abraham (Galatians 3:13-14)—why would He not care about your well-being?

Let’s dive deeper into these reasons to show you how much God truly cares for you. Whether you're struggling to stay connected to God or you've already walked away, this is for you.

Does God Really Care About My Needs?

This question reminds me of Matthew 7:9-11:

"What man is there of you, whom if his son asks for bread, will he give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will he give him a serpent? If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?”

Take a moment to meditate on this scripture.

God created each of us with unique gifts and talents meant to open doors for blessings. While some discover these gifts early on, others—like me—may feel uncertain. But here's the truth: there’s always a hint of your purpose in the things you naturally do well, even if the enemy tries to obscure it.

If you’re unsure of your gifts, don’t be discouraged. Start where you are. Take on a regular job using the skills you have, and while you work, ask God to reveal your purpose. Pray for Him to uncover your hidden gifts and talents. Instead of grumbling about your current situation, ask, “God, how can I grow in this role? What lessons are you teaching me here?”

Even the most challenging jobs can offer valuable lessons. Often, God places us in such environments to help us develop the fruits of the Spirit found in Galatians 5:22-23: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. These qualities are essential for living out our purpose with our gifts and talents.

Sometimes, the people or circumstances we view as obstacles are God’s tools to refine us, removing traits that could hinder our growth. Trust that He’s preparing you for greater things!

This is why we are always encouraged to ask God these questions when we face struggles: "What do You want me to learn?” or “What do You want to rid me of?”

What if I Already Know My Purpose but I’m Still Struggling?

Many people who know their God-given gifts may ask, “Why doesn’t God make a way for me to prosper with my gift?” I’ve asked this question myself since discovering my gift for writing books. Here’s what I’ve learned:

God often allows a season of preparation. During this time, He refines us, gives us opportunities to grow, and helps us build a foundation. He wants us to remain humble and avoid pride, which could lead to poor decisions. God is the Potter, and we are the clay. He continues to mold us until we are ready.

Two scriptures to keep in your heart during this time are:

Matthew 11:28-30
"Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."
Exodus 23:25
"And ye shall serve the Lord your God, and he shall bless thy bread and thy water; and I will take sickness away from the midst of thee."

Be prayerful and trust God while you wait for Him to open the door.

Why Does God Allow Bad Things to Happen?

When I was in high school, my younger brother was born with sickle cell anemia. His pain was severe, and he was often in and out of the hospital. I remember staring at his swollen fingers one day, tears streaming down my face, and praying, “God, let me take his place.”

For years, I tried to help him by making natural juices to strengthen his red blood cells. But you may wonder: “Why did God allow your brother to be born with this disease in the first place?”

I’ll show you that He didn’t.

Understanding Spiritual Warfare

In 2015, when God opened the door for me to start writing, He also gave me insight into spiritual warfare. I began to understand the parable of the wheat and tares in Matthew 13:25-30 on a deeper level.

Satan sows evil seeds in our lives, often through dreams. God frequently reveals these plans to us in dreams, but if we don’t take action—through prayer and spiritual warfare—those seeds can take root and manifest in our lives.

For example, I had two dreams about my nephews being attacked by spirits of homosexuality and cross-dressing. In the dream, God gave me Isaiah 49:25-26 to use as a weapon. When I woke up, I anointed their heads and private areas with oil and prayed fervently against those spirits.

Taking Action Against the Enemy

If you have a troubling dream, act immediately. Pray and cancel those plans before they take root. “Kill that seed before it turns into a tree.”

Unfortunately, in my brother’s case, the seed had already grown into a tree because neither I nor my family knew anything about salvation, spiritual warfare, or ancestral curses. As the Bible says in Hosea 4:6, “My people perish for lack of knowledge.”

When I began regularly praying at midnight, the Lord instructed me to pray for 21 days against witchcraft. It was during that time, God revealed the spiritual root of my brother’s illness. In a dream, I saw a nest of black baby snakes on his bed, and I set them on fire in the dream. When I awoke, I realized these serpents represented the source of his sickness.

I consecrated oil and water, applied them to his mattress, and wrote specific prayer points based on the revelation. During my continued midnight prayers, I prayed against those spirits. Since that time, my brother has not been sick with the same condition and has even learned how to recognize and combat spiritual attacks.

God Doesn’t Cause Suffering—He Reveals the Source.

God doesn’t cause bad things to happen, but He reveals their source so we can take action. Many people dismiss dreams as insignificant, but they are often a window into the spiritual realm.

Another instance where we might ask, “Why does God allow this to happen to me?” is explored in my third book, A Shattered Life Restored. One of the main characters, Derek, strayed from God after losing his wife and child. He felt abandoned and gave up on his faith.

But God, in His grace, used Meg—another main character—to bring Derek back to Him.

The first moment of reflection happened during a dinner conversation when Derek admitted he had lost his way. Meg responded with a question that pierced straight to his heart:

“Do you think God stops loving us when we do things that are sinful?”

Derek replied, “No, I don’t think He does, Meg.”

“Then why should we turn our backs on Him when we fall into misfortunes? Is that not like a one-sided love?”

Her second question lingers, doesn’t it?

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Later in the story, we see another powerful moment of surrender and reflection:

“Yes, I guess God has been using you to remind me that I needed to make things right with Him. When you told me you forgave me yesterday, despite everything I did, I realized that God was showing me He had forgiven me too—for walking so far away from Him. I’ve been feeling so much of His presence since yesterday.”

“Does that mean you are ready to recommit your life to Him?” Derek gave her a teasing smile and bit a piece of his french toast.

“Well, tell me,” she insisted poking his arm.

“Alright, I’ll tell you. Yes, sweetheart, I am ready. God didn’t just give me one blessing with giving me you; He gave me David as well.”

“Is that the reason you are committing your life back to Him?”

Derek’s smile faded and he stared into Meg’s eyes. “I’m ashamed to admit it, Meg. I guess for a hard-headed person like me, it takes a little more to help me find my way back to Him and remind me that His love had never left me, even when I didn’t feel like I had it."

Moments like these remind us that God’s love never leaves us, even when we feel lost.

How many of us have been where Derek was—returning to God only when we finally recognize His open arms?

How many of us have felt abandoned or distant from Him?

If this resonates with you or someone you know, A Shattered Life Restored is a book that offers hope and healing.